“Expect nothing. Live frugally on surprise.” ~Alice Walker
I've got some updates on some of the amazing opportunities I was thrilled to be a part of...
Here's me and my brother Matt singing a concert of Disney songs at the Columbia Presybterian Hospital, where 10 years ago I was in a coma.
Resilience rises again...and AGAIN!
Here are some beautiful photographs from the Arts Immersion Salon exploring resilience and the power of the human spirit at Beechwood Arts.
There are some fun highlights of the Arts Immersion Salon I was part of this month on the Beechwood Arts Immersion Site.
You can watch a recap of the best of the salon https://youtu.be/Yry2RbacE7E
And, this Thursday at Blue Lemon in Westport, CT there will be an opening reception for some new works of mine displayed there! 4-6pm :)
Oh, and you know my dilemma I wrote about finding the perfect father-daughter dance song for my wedding this weekend? My ode to my father and hero was published in Miss Millennial and The Mighty. Today, Bon Bon Break published my essay, and you even get to see what I ended up deciding on! Read Bon Bon Break HERE.
(deepest apologies to my fiance, but it's what happens when you marry a writer!)
You can read my full article here on the True Agape Blog - all about "building endurance for marriages and families."
With my wedding about two weeks away, I find myself looking back on a three-year whirlwind. Who knew that a little online tinkering could lead to finding the love of my life? I had never had a boyfriend, dated or even gone to a bar. Setting up an online dating profile was more of a creative writing exercise for me than a mission.
Yet there was a pull in me to connect, a yearning to feel, to reawaken that “happy carefree” part of me I had as a kid, and ignite a wiser, mature woman in me – a part of me I knew I had to acquire eventually.
These two years of engagement have been like living another lifetime. And the exciting part is that the day I say I Do will open the door to many more lifetimes and experiences!
Brandon and I don’t have the most conventional love story. He was the first man I met online, he proposed four months later, and after two amazing years of being fiancé and fiancée, we will walk down the aisle in two weeks! I’ve never felt love like this before for anything or anyone and feel so blessed that I’ve met my soulmate with such luck.
Being engaged is its own lifetime education. And by the time I become a “wife” on June 27th, 2015, I’ll have earned quite the degree! Every day is a new realization, either about myself, my husband-to-be, or about the nature of love, communication, and taking part in a relationship. Here are just some highlights.
- Relationships aren’t static or set in stone. They’re always evolving, molding, changing as you both change.
- There is always something new to learn or find out…and not just about each other.
- Sometimes it takes someone else to point out something you thought you understood all of your life.
- It’s never too late to say you’re sorry or resolve a conflict.
- Nobody ever got anything out of holding a grudge except frown lines.
- Creativity comes in all forms, shapes and sizes. Who would know that a computer-genius-RPI-graduate would have so much fun making art with his non-technical-musical-theatre-geek-mixed-media-painting fiancé?
- Smart is always sexy.
- The tiniest things can be the most meaningful. From the post-it note he leave on my laptop saying goodnight, or the Mike & Ikes I snag for him at a ballgame.
- A real man makes you feel beautiful no matter what.
- It’s great when your fiancé wants to be involved in planning your wedding…but don’t get upset when he gets a bit over-involved. (I wasn’t prepared for lengthy debates on whether my dress was “white” or “ivory”!)
- Opposites do attract, but sometimes people are not as “opposite” as they seem.
- You don’t really know someone until you go grocery shopping together.
- Nothing unites two 28-year-olds like 90’s pop culture nostalgia.
- Fiance is French for “engaged.” Go figure.
- Long engagements are the best. These have been the two most amazing years of my life.
- The most fulfilling way to view “engagement” is a journey – not just the “time before the wedding.” The engaged period is an incredible opportunity to grow, discover, and learn. Being engaged is an everyday celebration.
- There is never a “good” time to talk about difficult things, but the “best” time is
- Nothing seems too weird or crazy to the man who knows he’ll be spending the rest of his life with you.
- A clean, spruced up, well-kept man does not necessarily call for a clean, spruced up, well-kept living space!
- The best “nights out” are staycations – and made better with pajamas, cereal and SNL reruns.
- Expect to be pulled out of the moment every now and then, gaze in on this new relationship, and be completely in awe. Is this really me? Have I really found someone who accepts and loves me for exactly who I am?
- Shopping for domestic, ordinary things – like a washing machine at Best Buy – will fill you with delight.
- “Home” takes on a new meaning.
- Whatever the future holds can’t be scary – no matter what, now that you’ve got someone to hold your hand through it all.
- Being alone now never feels quite “alone.”
- Suddenly, being called “baby” doesn’t make you feel like an infant.
- You make conversation with random strangers just to use the word “fiancé.”
- You can be quite creative with how you use your left hand – suddenly it becomes the main player of every gesture.
- A handwritten note always speaks volumes, no matter how brief.
- A day can be awful, but knowing someone is coming home thinking of you makes everything seem insignificant.
- Family takes on an entirely new meaning.
- Even if you don’t want to, you’ll end up taking his fashion advice…
- …But no matter what you’re wearing or how you feel, he’ll make you feel beautiful.
- You realize you can suddenly relate to your parents a lot more and need their advice.
- Football. If you don’t understand it, don’t try. Just let him watch it.
- Money, children and religion – they’re topics you are going to talk about. So you might as well start.
- You can win any man over with a really good home-cooked meal.
- You can win him over just as easily with a bowl of cinnamon toast cereal and some comics from the Sunday newspaper.
- By the end of your engagement, expect to know a man completely different, yet entirely the same. The journey is in discovering him.
- By the end of your engagement, expect to know yourself completely differently, yet feel more “yourself” than you have all of your life. The journey…is in discovering.
What is something you learned in your engagement?
Before I Go...
I've been doing so much writing lately I don't want to fit it all into one blog post...but here's a little sneak peek!
Thanks to the Indie Chicks, I had a great time writing about a question we all wrestle with....how do you come to love the luck you've got?
Amy writes about two of her favorite things for Over The Red Line Magazine - the Berkshires and her brother Matt Oestreicher
In trauma, victims can fight, flee or freeze. I talk about my frozen reaction to sexual abuse in From Frozen to Free in Dropped Keys.
I was excited to once again write for Some Talk of You and Me "How Creativity Saved My Life"
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And don't forget I'm selling my customizable mixed media inchie pins on Etsy!
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“You ask me why I spend my life writing? Do I find entertainment? Is it worthwhile? Above all, does it pay? If not, then, is there a reason?… I write only because there is a voice within me. That will not be still.” ~Sylvia Plath